I will be your father figure

When she was in high school, my daughter created a unique art project where she made a graphic map of the people in her life with descriptions of what each of them meant to her. For my description, she wrote, “He’s such a dad”. At first, I was baffled by what she meant, but upon reflection, I realized that it meant that I was everything that a father should be. This made me think about the various acting projects that I was involved in through the years and how I often ended up playing a father in a number of them due to me appearing as the stereotypical dad. As someone who strives to be the best dad that I can be, I was proud to be typecast as a father figure. The following are several film projects that I’ve been in where I played various degrees of ‘dadness’.

Father’s Day Acting Class (2009) – A comedic approach to fatherhood about an acting class tailored to dads who need to convincingly feign delight at the crappy gift that their child just gave them for Father’s Day. Look for my daughter Emma featured at the 1:35 mark.

Maggie (2012) – A dramatic film short produced by an NYU film student for their Sights & Sounds Directing class. This was a dramatic one showing a father’s loss of his child. It was filmed on a snowy day in the dead of winter.

AT&T Commercial (2012) – Catch me portraying the Dad with my real son Hunter at the 26-second mark. Did I appear to be truly concerned about my son’s ‘broken’ arm, or was it just acting?

Miracle Drug (2012) – This music video was filmed by an NYU student as a requirement for his Tisch summer program assignment. It was one of the most heart-wrenching ‘Dad’ films that I’ve worked on.

Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles (2013) – I portrayed a father to this young man in a scene in the theatrical production. Throughout filming, he called me ‘Dad’ and I had to remind myself that he was my son that day.

Let Her Go (2014) – After portraying the ‘Dad’ in the Miracle Drug music video, I wanted to create something entirely on my own featuring me and my own daughter Emma. I loved Passenger’s Let Her Go and I wanted to use that touching song for a music video. After a fresh snowfall in the Staten Island Greenbelt, I knew that I had to take advantage of the snowy backdrop that would make a father’s temporary loss of his daughter even more dramatic. My friend, runner, and fellow actor Mark Vogt filmed most of the scenes.

Edge of Eighteen (2018) – When my daughter was a little girl, I knew that one day she would grow up to become a woman. The song, ‘Girl, You’ll Be A Woman Soon’ kept on playing in my head through the years as she grew. I told myself back then that when she reached adulthood, I would use that song to show her transition from a child to an adult. The inevitability of her becoming a woman emotionally affected me and filming a music video about this transition helped me artistically cope with this change. The beginning scenes where I was featured in were filmed by my brother Aaron.

It’s been fun portraying a father to both fake kids and my real kids. I look forward to working in more productions where I can portray a dad. And when I’m old and grey, I may graduate into playing the stereotypical granddad.

A Father’s Day 33 Years in the Making

For whatever reason, my cousin Jamie never had any children. While his brother Jeff, his cousins Aaron, Rose, and myself all have been enjoying the joys of parenthood seeing our children grow into fine adults, Jamie could never share those same feelings. Now 50 years old and with the regret of not starting a family early in life, Jamie had longed for a child of his own.

A few years ago and 82 miles away from Jamie, a man named Mickey Bennet took a 23andme test that helped him locate some of his distant relatives. Then in 2022, Mickey took an Ancestry DNA test. The results of that test helped Darcy Bennet, Mickey’s wife, find out the identity of his real grandfather. You see, Mickey was an adopted child who never knew who his real father was and wanted to find out. Being a person who loves to investigate things, Darcy thought it was time to know the truth about her husband’s parentage.

This is how she did it in her own words:

“A few years ago Mickey took a 23andme DNA test to learn more about where his family came from. Mickey was adopted at birth and it was a closed adoption because the mother was under 21 when she gave birth so Mickey’s parents didn’t have any information. When he took the 23andme test he learned about his heritage but was also connected to distant relatives (mostly 2nd cousins). Mickey talked to one of his second cousins and they told him that their father had a cousin, Patty Prehall, who lived in Allentown around the time that Mickey was born. At first, we thought that she was his Mom so I did a bunch of research and found some other relatives of Patty Prehall. I got to a dead end at one point and there were no updates until I got Mickey to take the ancestry DNA test. There he was connected to Bill Kulls, who originally showed up as Mickey’s first cousin. I looked up Bill on Facebook and saw that he was older than I expected so I looked up his friends with the last name Kulls. That’s when I found Jamie and I was shocked. So I sent him a message and I found Steve Kulls and sent him a message too. I found out that he was Bill’s half-brother and that Bill had three kids, Jamie included. Since we thought that Bill was Mickey’s cousin we thought Jamie was a 2nd cousin. I wasn’t convinced that Jamie was a cousin so I went back on the ancestry site and clicked on the connection to Bill. It ends up that Bill is Mickey’s grandpa. So that narrowed Mickey’s dad to be either Jamie or Jeff. I did some more research and found out that Jamie graduated high school the same year that Mickey was born, so that lined up with his biological parents being under 21. Then I found out that Patty Prehall is Jamie and Jeff’s mom so I was like “Wow”. Then Jamie replied to me and more things lined up with the timing. He came to visit NY and then we got the paternity test done and he was a match!”

It took 33 years for my cousin Jamie to find out that he was a father. Today is the first Father’s Day in all those years that Jamie can truly celebrate parenthood.

Mickey (middle) finally reunited with his real parents 33 years after his birth.
Mickey and Jamie. They look like brothers, but they’re really father and son.
Darcy and Mickey Bennet